(You and your spouse are living apart, but you haven't filed for legal separation or divorce.)
15. My spouse and I have been separated for several years but we have never filed for divorce. Are we still married? Can I marry someone else?
Until you end your marriage through divorce (or annulment in very rare cases -- See Question 10) you and your spouse are married. Neither of you can remarry until you end your marriage.
16. My spouse and I have separated but we haven't filed for divorce. I have our children. Do I have more custody rights than my spouse?
No. Unless you have a custody order (a court order signed by a judge that says that you have custody) you and your spouse have equal rights to have the children. You and your spouse can agree on where the children should live. With few exceptions, you won't be able to have the police get your children back if your spouse breaks the agreement unless you have a court custody order .
17. How can I get a court order that gives me custody?
If you are afraid of your spouse because of physical abuse or threats against you within the last six months, and your children have ties to this state or need emergency protection, you should be able to get custody for one year as part of a Family Abuse Prevention restraining order. See Questions 6 through 8 and Question 70.
If you are filing for divorce and your children have ties to this state or need emergency protection, you can ask in your petition that permanent custody be awarded you in the divorce judgment. See Question 35. Once you have filed for divorce, you can ask for a temporary order that gives you custody until the divorce is final. See Question 58.
18. If my spouse and I are separated, can I get child support? How?
Your spouse can agree to pay you child support, but you can't enforce this arrangement unless you have a court or agency order.
You can get a child support order without filing for a divorce. If you are getting welfare, the state's Division of Child Support (DCS, formerly known as SED) will try to get a support order against your spouse. If you are not getting welfare, you can contact the county District Attorney for free help in getting a child support order.
You can also ask for child support as a part of your divorce. A judge can require your spouse to pay child support payments in a temporary order and in the final divorce judgment.
See Questions 90 through 130 for more information about child support.
19. Do I have to let my spouse back into my home if we are separated but still legally married?
If you are separated and your spouse's name is not on the rental agreement or deed to the home, your spouse has no right to enter it. If you are living in the family home and feel you are in danger from your spouse or partner, you can ask for a restraining order that will forbid him or her from contacting you or coming into your home. See Protection from Abuse.
20. Am I responsible for my spouse's debts while we are still married?
You are not responsible for any debts signed for by your spouse before the marriage (unless you also signed for them). Nor are you responsible for any debts your spouse signed for alone during your marriage, with one exception: you and your spouse are each responsible for family expenses, such as debts for living expenses and medical care for each other and the children, even if only one spouse makes the purchase. If you separate, you each are responsible for your own new debts and expenses for the children after that time. For more information about your and your spouse's responsibility for bills after divorce, see Questions 140 through 142.